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Some Former Friends Should Stay Just That.

Have you ever been scrolling along on Facebook and stopped to look at a friends’ post, and as you’re reading the comments for that post, you see one from a friend that you haven’t seen, heard from, or even thought about in years?

This is a person you spent years running around with. Maybe even grew up together all the way through elementary school until one of you had to move away.

As you read their comment, you’re thinking, “It would be great to get back to talking with them!” You don’t even finish the comment section, you just click on them and send the friend request.

A day or so later, you see that your friend request has been accepted. Now there is a short, not really awkward, but uncomfortable time when you see if they send a message to you, or should you send the message to them?

Before you can decide, you see that your “new friend” has been on your newsfeed, using all this “high intelligent talk” with your current friends on everything that is posted on YOUR newsfeed! They have already started 14 arguments and ticked off 27 of them. You have 22 messages from friends asking you “Who is this idiot?”

They may have moved away when you were young to a different town in the same state, or to a close-by, neighboring state. When they moved, you had all of the same ideas and dreams.

But something happened. Something is very different about them now. You, yourself, still have the same dreams. The same goals that you had back then. Ok, they may have grown up a bit with you, but deep down, you still want to be the starting running back for the Oakland Raiders. The other dreams and goals have grown up with you, that’s enough.

So what happened to your friend? You have absolutely nothing in common now. He is arguing and ticking off every one of your current friends that have, for the most part, the same goals and ideals that you do.

So you go and look on their page. Something you probably should have done before the friend request, if it was possible, and there you see it.

Employment: Self-employed

Job: Reverend, Guru, Intellectual Healer, and Guide

Schools: Life’s Journey, taught by Master Guru So-and-so

AHHHHHH!! Your good child-years friend has now become an, I’m better than everyone, (possible cult member), know it all JERK.

This is a cautionary tale, that yes, has happened to me. Not all old friends should be current friends. Just because you were inseparable at a certain age, doesn’t mean you have anything in common with them now. Even if you were both adults and it’s only been a few years. Your surroundings and the people you deal with mold the person you are and some of the thoughts and ideals that you have. The same goes for your “friend” that moved away. Only their surroundings are not the same as yours anymore.

So don’t jump to the friend request right away. Look them up before doing it. Some former friends should stay former friends.

The one I talk about in this story actually moved from Iowa with his family, to Nebraska. But as a young, just out of high school adult, he moved to……. You guessed it, California!!!

 

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